Life was created to be lived happily. But more often than not, we happen to think that we do not deserve to live a happy life and be happy. We should instead understand that happiness is a choice. It is not something that happens to us or something which we cannot control or have any influence on.
To reach happiness, we must first acknowledge the fact that our thoughts and actions have an enourmous power on how we feel: for this very reason we must modify our actions and schemes of thought that go against our well-being. Here are 5 quick and easy steps that will jumpstart your quest for happiness:
1. PLEASURE:
Find pleasure wherever you go. It does not matter if circumstaces are good or bad: create your very own pleasures. Start and finish by catering to yourselves. Be agile receptors of all the delicious things this life can offer.
2. PLAY:
Seek happiness with other people, get them involved. The smallest of gestures can suffice, a smile, a compliment, a kind gesture… Play!
3. FORGET THE DRAMA:
Do not make a fuss out of everything that happens to you. Quit focusing on the negatives, the self-pitying and seeking people’s approval and understanding. Also quit giving too much to others, and give it to yourselves. Before anything, fill your own empty spaces. And while you do that, quit listening to bad news, even that of the media that have nothing to do with you. Nothing can stop the drama, if not trying to shut it down. Drama based on fear does not bring happiness about.
4. FIND TRANQUILITY:
Sit and breathe the quietness in. It may seem strange at the beginning, but the more you do it the more you will be able to connect with yourselves. The more you will understand yourselves, the less needy you will feel, because tranquility can bring you the peace you seek, which is fundamental for reaching happiness.
5. FORGET ABOUT THE OUTCOMES:
Believing that things ought to be done in a certain way or constantly waiting for the right moment to be happy, can steer you even more off from reaching your goal. You may feel that happiness is dictated by your current situation. You may think that for being happy you must have an end goal, the reaching of which will bring you happiness. But if you keep waiting for the right time, it will remain difficult to reach. Happiness is not the final destination, but the very journey that brings you towards it. Stress and disappointments are caused by expectations: reassest yours and determine if they are realistic or not. Ask yourselves why you keep holding onto them. This way it will be easier to let go and be happy.
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Good post, Ricardo. People tend to feel trapped in circumstances and need reminders to make choices that lead to well being. Sometimes a fresh perception can be a game changer.
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Thank you! 🙂 yes, perspective is the real answer here.
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An excellent post, Riccardo. It serves to either raise awareness or be a gentle reminder to us all that happiness is self-generated and,, yes, has to do with one’s perspective. AND, ultimately, it is self-empowering to choose to live a happiness-filled life. 🙂
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Thank you! 🙂 yes, it ultimately comes down to us being mindful about how we act and feel and taking responsibility for it. You summarized it perfectly thank you 🙂
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You’re welcome! I enjoyed reading your post, as it reflects where my mindset is these days. It’s been a good, long journey of learning and discovery for me to reach that realization of creating my own happiness. Plus, it’s fun to encounter like-minded people, so your post resonated with me doubly. 🙂
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We tend to overthink and snuff out happiness from our lives… well written
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Yes exactly.. thank you 🙂
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Great post, thank you for sharing. I definitely agree with ‘forgetting the drama’. The more drama you move away from the happier you will be x
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Thank you! 🙂 Yes, and nowadays it’s everywhere, but it’s also avoidable.
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Reblogged this on Simply Etta D. and commented:
I agree on all counts. Happiness is a choice!!
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Thank you!🙏😊🙏
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You’re welcome Ricardo.
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I loved your list so much I reblogged it!! Your points are right on and so true! I could feel them resonating deep inside of me!
Peace,
Tamara
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Thank you!🙏🙏 love that you liked it so much🙏😊🙏
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Great post Riccardo and have included in my round up later this morning.. I agree completely that happiness is a choice and that you should not expect to be made happy by others… guaranteed not to have your expectations met! Thanks for following Smorgasbord and look forward to more posts from you.
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Yes exactly, we have more control over our lives than we tend to think. Thank you for taking the time to read it. 🙂 🙂
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Pleasure Riccardo.. look forward to more.
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Thank you so much for sharing! 🙂 🙂 🙂
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Don’t sweat the small stuff and remember to breathe . . . Good advice, Ricardo! 🙂
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Thank you!🙏😊🙏
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